Happiness is like a butterfly
Happiness is like a butterfly. When you are chasing it, you can’t control it, but if you sit down quietly, it may come to you. Unfortunately, most people’s life go just in the opposite direction.
To begin with, most of us are too busy to sit down quietly. You wake up at six in the morning, rush to the bus stop, getting increasingly nervous that you’ll miss the bus. When you are finally in the office, you sit at the working table like being pegged, barely having time to fetch some water. As you are getting some unbearable headache, it comes to the time of going home, nearly exhausted. But, you couldn’t fall asleep until the midnight. It may be exaggerating, however I bet most average men at their 30s are more or less like this case.
Even there are times you sit down quietly, someone else may be nagging at you. You parents are talking about how you can behave well like a good son. You wife is chattering on your responsibility of being a husband and father. Even your mind itself is contemplating how to finish the assignments, like the homework issued by teachers or projects demanded by your boss.
Happiness seems to become like a catchy but unrealistic word. People at their 30s tend to avoid it, when being asked “Are you happy or not?”, a wry smile is the answer. However difficult it is, happiness is still what we want. Then how to be truly happy?
According to my interview and observation, happy people are good at doing two things. The first one is “subtraction”, trying to make themselves less busy by staying away from some unnecessary business. The other is, they compare less frequently with some other outstanding guys. They have the courage to be themselves, being less affected by the outside voices.
Happiness is like a butterfly. It is beautiful. Admiring it makes us pursuing ahead. Sitting down quietly may make it come near to you. So try to slow down your pace, be it mentally or physically.
